Are libra women generally narcissistic and secretly very selfish.?

I know for a fact they are not all that way. My mother has 5 personal planets in Libra and she's the gross opposite of a narcissist...she is the world's biggest doormat. Yes, she is very selfish in many ways, but it's for the "us" factor of a relationship, not for the "me alone" factor. I think people with heavy Libra placements really have to struggle with finding that balance between independent and co-dependent, and they do tend to swing strongly one way or the other at any given time. I imagine that this person you are describing in in the throes of having her scales rebalanced because of a relationship failure, and is swinging strongly toward the "independent" side right now. It may make her seem narcissistic and selfish, but it's really a survival instinct. If you give her time, she may very well find her balance again.